There’s a great line from one of my favorite movies, P.S. I Love You, which goes like this:
So now, all alone or not, you gotta walk ahead. The thing to remember is if we’re all alone, then we’re all together in that too.”
I think those words are very applicable to what we are all feeling during this crazy pandemic.
As easy as it is to fall into the “woe is me” mindset and feel like your suffering is somehow worse than someone else’s, we have to take a breath and remember that we are all just trying to get through this. Pointing fingers of judgement at others doesn’t make anyone feel better, not even yourself. All of that judgement and arguing just creates stress.
I’m not suggesting you don’t have the right and even the responsibility to express yourself or speak your mind and stand up for what you feel is right. I’m simply saying that the intent and the presentation should be carefully considered before you go off on a tangent.
I think it’s important to remember that whatever you are going through, there is ALWAYS someone who is worse off than you. As my Daddy would always tell me when I was complaining about something, “it could always be worse.” I think about those words A LOT these days.
Now is the time to really practice counting your blessings. Bringing positivity to your days is essential right now for good mental health and overall well being. It is becoming essential to spark your creativity to think outside the box to find ways to not go stir crazy.
I will admit that for Joe and I, it has not been easy to find ways to add fun to the days. We live in the city centre of Manchester, UK and there is nothing open. Unlike most cities, there aren’t big parks to stroll through either. But we were determined to find new things to occupy ourselves and not go completely stir crazy.
We didn’t want to simply watch TV all the time. Although we have definitely binged a few shows. God bless Ricky Gervais for creating his show “After Life.” (Blessing) But what is wrong with the writers who came up with “Ozark?” That show is just not right. But the point is we do watch some TV but try to limit it to just an hour or two at night.
Of course, Joe is working from home as most people are. So that means we are together in our small apartment 24/7( insert eye roll emoji) 🙄. So we have had to come up with ways to make it fun and not get on each other’s nerves. But we are fortunate that he has a job he can do from home. (Blessing)
We have always been active so being indoors so much of the time is challenging. But it is important for us to keep moving. Workouts include our Peloton 🚴♀️ and many wonderful apps like Daily Yoga and Strong. (Blessings) If you are on those apps look for us. Also, our Fitbit makes it easy to stay on track with steps and other fitness goals. If you want to follow us and have us follow you, comment on this post and we will give you our profiles to connect.
Living in the city, walking for groceries is normal. It is actually one of my favorite things about living in the city, the fact that we can walk most places. (Blessing) Every morning around 7am we take a 2-3 mile walk. Somedays the walk is combined with our grocery shopping. We have a very tiny apartment refrigerator so we have to shop every two days or so. And we have been very fortunate that every single time we go to the grocery store they have everything on my list. We are not wanting for food. (Blessing)
The walks have become our only outside activity, so we try to be very mindful when we are out. The emptiness of the city has allowed us the opportunity to really “see” the city. The buildings, the campuses, and even taking notice of restaurants we never knew existed. (Hoping they reopen so we can patronize them.) We even discovered a Tree Trail through the campus of the University of Manchester that we didn’t know existed. Following the trail and learning about the different trees has been educational and fun. (Blessing)
To keep the TV time to a minimum, we started playing cards and games. Gin Rummy, Boggle, and Yahtzee are our games of choice. I find that not only has it been a source of fun and good banter but also keeps our minds sharp. Those senior moments need to be neutralized by sharpening your mind you know. These games are fun and challenging. (Blessing)
I have also found that this time of lockdown has made me a lot more conscious of keeping in touch with family and friends. I speak with friends more often than I have since I first moved here. I have actually had more contact with family members that I haven’t talked to in a long time. So in some ways, this separation has brought me closer together with people. Thank goodness for Zoom and Google Meeting. (Blessing)
I have also tried to be uber productive during this time. I’m on a 77-day streak with my French lessons on Duolingo. I am keeping up with new books that are coming out. And have found exciting new ways to learn by using apps like Blinkist to read more books in a shorter amount of time. Blinkist is like the Cliff Notes for top selling books. Blinkist breaks down the book into bullets and you can literally learn about an entire book in less than 15 mins. It is audio but also includes the notes in written form.
So even though things are not the way I would choose for them to be, things could always be worse. I try hard to count my blessings every day and realize just how lucky I am. It’s not always easy and I find myself frustrated and even mad sometimes, of course. But then I just look again at all my Blessings and know that this too shall pass.
I encourage you to continue to find new ways to keep life fun and happy. We might not be able to control what is going on in the world, but we can control what is going on in our homes. We can decide to be happy and decide to make it fun. It is up to us to get through the tough times the best way we can.
Let me know some of the awesome ways you have found to keep the positivity going in your house during this craziness. Sharing is caring.
And remember, “if we’re all alone, then we’re all together in that too.”